Wendy Behary
Also known as Wendy T. Behary
Schema therapist known for work with narcissism, author of Disarming the Narcissist.
At a glance
Roles
International Society of Schema Therapy (President 2010 to 2014)
Main ideas
Narcissism hides vulnerability, The modes of narcissism, Help for the people around them
See all 3Books to start with
Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed
Connections
Jeffrey Young, Schema therapy and 2 others
See all 4
Also on this page: Key facts · Links · Sources · Related pages
- She is a clinical social worker who specialises in narcissism and in couples with relationship problems.
- She has trained and worked with Jeffrey Young since 1989.
- She founded the Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and the Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC.
- She was president of the International Society of Schema Therapy from 2010 to 2014.
- Her book Disarming the Narcissist is in its third edition.
Why it matters
- For people living or working with a narcissist, and for therapists treating narcissism, she applies schema therapy to one of its hardest problems.
Key facts
- Credentials
- MSW, LCSW2
- Known for
- Disarming the Narcissist, translated into 15 languages2
- Founded
- The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey; the Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC and DC2
- ISST
- President, 2010 to 20142
- Works with
- Has trained and worked with Jeffrey Young since 19892
- Also
- Founding fellow and supervisor of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy, founded by Aaron Beck2
Roles
Main ideas
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Narcissism hides vulnerability3
In schema terms, narcissists are hurt in attachment needs and hide vulnerable feelings behind coping modes.
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The modes of narcissism3
A superior Self-Aggrandizer mode and an addictive Detached Self-Soother mode both serve to regulate the self.
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Help for the people around them2
Her work also serves partners and others who deal with narcissists.
Books to start with
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Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed1
Third edition, with a foreword by Jeffrey Young and a preface by Daniel Siegel (New Harbinger).
Connections
Links
Sources
- Disarming the Narcissist (Wendy Behary's site) (opens disarmingthenarcissist.com)
- About Wendy Behary (Disarming the Narcissist) (opens disarmingthenarcissist.com)
- Dieckmann & Behary 2015, Schema therapy: an approach for treating narcissistic personality disorder (PubMed) (opens pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov)
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